The dating process for me has always been a game of cat and mouse. I like to think of myself as the mouse, just prancing around adorably and minding my own business until a sexy cat comes along and decides to chase me. I don’t do the chasing for two reasons; one being that I’m too cute, and two being that it’s too much effort. Also, stepping back from the pursuing process allows you to focus on other, more important parts of your life such as school, friends, or family, until you are pleasantly surprised by a suitor. If your bait hasn’t gotten a bite in over three months I would choose a different strategy, but the waiting game has always worked for me.
The first step is meeting the guy. It is a tad harder to meet a guy for the average homosexual, so the key is to look in places where you know they congregate. Boston Alliance of Gay and Lesbian Youth dances, pride parades, clubs, gay-straight alliances in school or Diesel Cafe are all adequate places for young gay men to meet other gay men. If you know you’re going to be in the vicinity of a potential suitor, you should make an effort to look good. Something tight never hurts, as well as something that accentuates the arms or butt. Smelling good is key too for attracting a mate with your scent, unless you have a natural musk.
When a guy approaches me my first priority is to make them laugh. As Marilyn Monroe once said, “If you can make a girl laugh you can make her do anything”. Well the same sentiment definitely applies to men. Being myself and not being afraid to be goofy always seems to turn on the charm. Even if you’re not Joan Rivers, when a guy sees that you are trying to make a joke they will instantly like you a little bit more. After a connection is made you give them your name and your number. Give your name so they can add you on Facebook and your number so that if they’re really interested they can get at you and not the other way around. Make them prove that they like you while you’re doing something better with your time.
This is where the internet plays a vital role because you and your suitor can learn more about each other before the first date, hangout session, or sleazy hookup. Scoping out you man, or “creeping” will tell you enough you need to know about him until he asks you out. Flirty texts and chats help your case, but don’t reply too soon or else you’ll seem desperate. On the first date don’t mention sex or hooking up, unless that is purely what you’re there for, and even so just hint at it casually. When exchanging stories, likes, dislikes, and any other information, don’t give too much away. That way you can remain a creature of mystery and have more to talk about if you’re lucky enough to have a second date with him.
